A simple and good father of the bride wedding speech and toast should briefly welcome everyone and express gratitude for their presence, highlight your daughter’s great qualities, and warmly welcome the groom into your family with open arms.
On the surface of things, writing a simple and good father of the bride speech seems like a cinch. But, a lot goes into writing one.
As a professional wedding speech writer, I have seen first-hand how many fathers of the brides sacrifice content for the sake of simplicity. But, that shouldn’t be the case, however.
As simple as it may seem, writing a simple father of the bride speech takes a lot of time and effort. You have to pour your whole heart and mind and soul into making it fun, heartfelt, and memorable.
How do you do that? A wise man once said that the only way to eat an elephant is to take a bite a time.
What that means is you can only get it done by taking on just a little at a time. Doing that will help calm your nerves, keep you focused, and help you string your thoughts together with ease.
So, without further ado, let’s dive right into action by outlining the proven steps to get your ideas down on paper.
Here are the simple and easy steps involved in writing a good script:
Step#1: Psyche Yourself Up For Your Father Of The Bride Speech
Step#2: Pick A Style And Go With It
Step #3: Find Simple Father Of The Bride Speech Examples
Step#4: Write Your Simple Father Of The Bride Speech
Let’s start with step number one:
Psyche Yourself Up For Your Father Of The Bride Speech
I want you to imagine this scenario. You have never made an overseas trip. Would you just pick up your passport, buy your airplane ticket, and fly over to your destination?
Chances are you won’t do that. First, you will first find out a little bit about your destination before you actually pack and go out there.
That’s the case with the pre-planning process. You have to start from somewhere to get to somewhere.
This is what I do when looking for ideas and I recommend you do same for your speech.
You have to watch a few YouTube videos about how father of the bride speeches are done as that will not only put you in the mood to write but also motivate you to put your best foot forward.
Here’s a great video clip, you can watch and learn from.
That brings me to the next step which is somewhat connected to what we have just talked about.
Step#2: Pick A Style And Go With It
The fact that you saw a good father of the bride speech you liked doesn’t mean you should copy it because everyone is wired differently.
You know what? Your speech should reflect who you are and your personal attributes should shine through it. It’s what makes it so engaging.
For example, if you love to make people laugh, then you should do a funny father of the bride speech.
If you are a crier, then you might do a heartfelt or emotional speech.
So, my question is: What is your personality type? Are you an emotional person? A funny guy? A babbler? A witty guy? Put the correct answer down. Remember, your personality, values, and experiences will determine the tone and impact of your words.
Once, you have that figured out, you can head over to YouTube and search for videos that’s centered on your personality. For example, if you are funny guy, your keyword on that platform would be ‘’funny father of the bride speech videos’’
It you are an intensely emotional dad, then, you may look up a video like this one:
Do you see where I am going here? That it is how it’s done exactly.
That brings me to this very important step: study…
Step #3: Simple Father Of The Bride Speech Examples
Here is a quick example:
Good evening everyone. For those of you that don’t know me I’m Dennis. I’m Kelly’s dad and I
have the pleasure of making the first speech tonight. This is from the father of three daughters.
I’ve got to admit I’m just a bit nervous not because I’m making a speech but because I’ve been married for 37 years and I’m not used to speaking for longer than 30 seconds without being interrupted. So please bear with me. This is from the father of three daughters.
On behalf of Carol and myself and also Ryan’s parents, Colleen and Bob, I’d like to welcome all of you and thank you for coming to celebrate Kelly and Ryan’s big day.
I’d also like to thank everyone who’s helped out on the lead up to the wedding and whatever way big or small, you’ve all played your part to make this day possible.
But everybody please be extra careful with the table decorations because Ryan’s going to be taking them back on Monday for a refund. I told you Ryan that I was going to give you a couple of zingers.
Now it’s traditional at this point for me to share some stories about the bride. But please don’t worry Kelly. I promised I wouldn’t embarrass you in my speech and I’ll keep that promise.
However, your mother and I will go from table to table later and tell as many embarrassing stories as we possibly can think of. All joking aside, what I would like to share is how proud I am and how I felt giving you away.
You look beautiful in your dress. For me the key to being a dad is giving unconditional love advice and support.
Encourage you in everything you do. Always believing in you and most importantly being there for you whenever you need me and never letting you down.
Kelly, everyone who knows you will agree that you’re kind, caring, bubbly and fun loving. So today seems the perfect occasion in front of family and friends for your mother and me to say how much we love you and that we are very proud of you.
It’s normal at this point to welcome the new son-in-law to the family. But Carol and I have always treated Ryan as part of the family. We liked you from the moment we first met you. It was obviously that you adore Kelly.
Over the years, our instincts have proven to be correct and we look on you more as a son. So remember that if you ever need our help or support, we’re always there for you as well as Kelly.
Everyone can see how much you love Kelly. You also have a great sense of humor and even though you might be embarrassed to show it, you have a caring and sensitive side too.
I know that you meeting Kelly made your life more complete. There is only one thing that disappointed me today. That sharp as you look in that tux, Ryan.
I hope that you might be wearing a kilt. But since Kelly will be wearing the pants from now on. I can understand you had it to wear some today.
Now I know Kelly will mold you into the perfect husband. I’m sure you’re a modern man and like the idea of partnership as much as I do. So remember doing some housework won’t kill you but I won’t take the chance.
Anyway, Kelly and Ryan, remember true love isn’t about looking at life through tenth rose tinted glasses and being perfect it’s about accepting that we all have faults and loving someone for who they are not who you want them to be.
So always be positive and remember that you fell in love with each other because of the things you liked. Not the things that you disliked.
Neither of you will ever be perfect. But, you can be a perfect match for each other. A successful marriage is not about finding a person you can live with but finding a person that you can’t live without. And I know that you found each other.
Now, I’m no expert on marriage. Trust me but I would like to share one bit of advice with you. If you’ve had a falling out never go to bed angry. Be like your mother and me and stay up all night and fight.
Just kidding… I was just kidding. While you have each other don’t forget you always have the support of your friends and family. You can’t get rid of us that easily. Well, I think you’ve heard enough from me. So, I’d like to propose a toast.
The first couple sentences will probably be something that you’ve heard before. The last one not so sure. So, here’s to the past for all that you’ve learned.
Here’s to the present for all that you share and here’s to the future for your hopes and dreams. Your love and happiness and all that you look forward to together.
Please raise your glasses and join me in a toast. Here’s to Ryan and Kelly.
Now, let’s look at the last step:
How To Write A Simple Father Of The Bride Speech
Creating an outline and simply filling it in with the correct information can get you a quick first draft.
So, let’s first create one.
Here you go:
· Welcome everyone with a smile
· Thank the guests for making it to the event
· How would you describe yourself?
· Share a story or two about the bride
· Talk about the groom
· End with your parting wisdom about marriage
· Propose a toast
That sounds easy, right? Now, let’s see how we can embellish each bullet point with a few examples.
· Welcome Everyone With A Smile
Can you do that? I bet you can do it. So, go ahead and do that.
· Thank The Guests For Making It To The Event
Here’s how to write one:
Good evening and thank you all for gathering here today to celebrate this wonderful occasion — the wedding of my daughter
How about this one? I’d also like to thank everyone who’s helped out on the lead up to the wedding and whatever way big or small, you’ve all played your part to make this day possible.
· How Would You Describe Yourself?
Here is a perfect illustration: For those of you that don’t know me I’m Dennis. I’m Kelly’s dad.
· Share A Story Or Two About The Bride
What would you like to say about your beloved daughter?
Is she a caring person?
Is she very adventurous?
Is she fun to be around?
Why are you so proud of her?
Is she a protective older sister?
How does she make you a better person?
Why are so happy that she’s getting married?
Now, write down answers to those questions and use it to cobble up a rough first draft you can always go back to clean up.
· Talk About The Groom
This can give you an idea:
When Kyle introduced us to Ben, we were thrilled. He’s not just her choice; he’s the right choice.
Ben is responsible, always willing to help, respectful, and kind. He never loses his temper, and it’s evident in the way he cares for Brianna that he truly loves her.
Got it?
Ok…let’s see the next thing on the list:
· End With Your Parting Wisdom About Marriage
I really love this example:
Now, I’m no expert on marriage. Trust me but I would like to share one bit of advice with you. If you’ve had a falling out never go to bed angry.
How about this nugget of wisdom?
Take every opportunity to explore the world, meet new people, and embrace the adventures that lie ahead.
Now, it’s time for this:
Propose A Toast
This is absolutely beautiful.
So, here’s to the past for all that you’ve learned.
Here’s to the present for all that you share and here’s to the future for your hopes and dreams. Your love and happiness and all that you look forward to together